Posted: February 22, 2024
If you have elderly parents but do not live in the same town they do, you might be wondering about the necessity and logistics of seniors moving closer to family. Perhaps you moved away from your hometown after college. Or maybe your parents relocated to a warmer client when they retired. But as they age, they might need to move closer to family.
When older loved ones begin to struggle with the responsibilities of day-to-day living, it can be a challenge to determine what might be best for everyone. Ultimately, the decision to move closer to family is a personal one, and seniors should consider their own priorities, preferences, and goals for this stage of their life.
Moving closer to family may require long-term planning, including legal and financial considerations such as estate planning, healthcare directives, and power of attorney arrangements.
Before you sit down to speak with your parents, make sure you have done your homework. Even if parents don’t live hundreds of miles away, if a relative cannot easily see them at least once a week to ensure their safety, it might as well be a million miles away. This is especially true if your family member is living with dementia.
Be sure to investigate the following areas when considering seniors moving closer to family:
This is a challenging conversation. It’s essential to respect and honor your parents and invite their collaboration. Having these conversations over a period of time will give them a sense of control and peace of mind about their future.
Deciding when to move senior parents closer to family is a significant decision that involves careful consideration of various factors. The conversation itself is not only tough, but so is knowing when to have it.
The first thing to do is assess your parents’ current health status and any ongoing medical needs. If they require frequent medical attention or assistance with daily activities, being closer to family who can provide support may be beneficial. The concept of ADLs (activities of daily living) developed by Dr. Sidney Katz are indicators that show a human’s ability to live independently. They include the following:
Scoring is either zero points if the activity can’t be performed or one point if it can. The higher the score, the more likely the person can live independently.
Other key points to consider include the following:
Ultimately, involve your parents in decision-making and consider their wishes and preferences. While moving closer to family may seem logical, it’s essential to respect your parents’ autonomy and consider what will make them happiest.
Moving can be expensive, so it’s essential to consider the financial implications of relocating your parents closer to family. Evaluate the cost of living in both locations and determine if the benefits of moving outweigh the expenses.
You must also determine the level of care that is needed. Costs vary by the level of care, such as Assisted Living, Memory Support, and Independent Living. Inclusions and amenities will also impact costs. Typically, there is a base rate, which includes some meals, activities, programming, and utilities. There may be charges for additional support services, such as additional nursing care.
Talk with a geriatric care manager or social worker as you consider your options and what you can and cannot do for your parents. For example, you’ll need to consider whether they are taking their medications properly and whether they are eating properly. Has their mobility decreased? Is their overall health worsening? Are they becoming lonely or reclusive? All of these will help you in determining the level of care they’ll need.
Other items to think about include the following:
Investigate senior living communities that can provide the level of care your parents need, visiting in person or virtually, as needed. Be sure to include them as part of the decision-making process.
Since many seniors will move from a home to a smaller place, downsizing is crucial. At Casey’s Pond, we have a wide array of floor plans to choose from. Talk to your parents as early as possible about developing a plan for downsizing and be sure to treat them like adults. Treat their possessions with respect. Even items that don’t have a lot of monetary value may be difficult for them to let go of because of emotional ties. Many families use the services of senior move managers.
Once the move is planned, set up a packing schedule but be prepared to move slowly. Putting pressure on your parents to let go of items will likely be counterproductive. Get as much of the family involved as possible and find a home for items with sentimental value whenever possible.
For seniors moving new to spaces, recreating the feel of the home they left behind can ease the transition. Help them decorate with cherished items. Consider digitizing photos on an electronic device that doesn’t take up much space but keeps these heirlooms accessible. If possible, spend time with them in their new place.
Read more about the lifestyle at Casey’s Pond, and what residents have to say about their experiences in our welcoming, inclusive continuing care community. We’re here to answer your questions! Contact us to learn more or to schedule a tour.